Each week it seems the Divine has
a theme for me that pops up in my
life and in my clients’ lives. This week
is all about self judgment.

My own struggles with self judgment
come back to self love. This week I’m
having a hard time loving my intensity.
It keeps showing up in ways that don’t
feel good to me or the recipients.

Some of my intensity grows from the seed
of the illusion of separation – that I am
separate from God – and therefore myself,
therefore the other. Connection is important
to me – so once I start to tumble down this
hill things can fall apart quickly, and I get
caught in the cycle of self judgment.

The challenge once caught in self
judgment is breaking the cycle.

Here’s what I do to break the cycle:
First, I remember there are three
possible solutions to my pain:
1) Experience the Divine within (I
teach/facilitate/utilize Beneath the
Sand (BTS) – my proprietary program
for remembering and experiencing
your wholeness). 2) Surrender (letting
go of my ideas of how/what/when/who).
3) Practice (doing 1 & 2 each day at least
several times).

Second: I do BTS, and then I surrender.
The act of surrender is an interesting
thing to master because it’s such a
paradox: I give up all control to the
Divine and in doing so, Divine grace
can flow in my life, and all is well
(not figuratively, literally).

Deciding what to surrender is easy for
me: It’s the topic/situation/relationship
where the greatest challenge exists –
where I’m feeling the most resistance.

It’s much easier to write and talk about
than it is to practice surrender. However,
once you begin to surrender following a
powerful practice of the Divine within,
your perspective on life transforms.
When your perspective transforms,
your life transforms.

How will you respond to self judgment
next time it comes up in your life?

That’s it for this week…From My Heart.

Peace,
Ken

PS – I’m being interviewed on two
different radio programs this week –
both are available for you to listen to
where ever you are in the world.
The first is today between 5-6 PM EDT
is with Paul Goldman on his program
‘Journey Into Oneness’ – here’s the link:
http://bit.ly/ICyDov

The second is on Friday between 2-3 PM
EDT with Ann White on her program
‘Creating Calm Within Chaos’ – here’s the
Link: http://bit.ly/JgJGCy

Both programs should be available to listen
to in replay if you miss the live show. I hope
you can join me for these!

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer
Creator of the Transformational Beneath the Sand Program
http://kenwstone.com/

One of the things I’ve been working
with over the last couple of years
are the stories I tell myself.

The gap between my experience of
the Divine inside me, and the moments
where things aren’t meshing or jiving
with my perception of who I am – or
in relationship with other people remains
an interesting challenge for me.

It’s easier for me to see the disconnect
in relationship with other people because
I can blame them when things are out of
sync. And as quickly as I do (or within
a couple of minutes, hours, or days, LOL!)
I can remember that the “out of sync”
experience with the other person is
showing me something about myself.

In these moments of frustration and
disappointment I ask myself “what is
real?” And the answer comes: My
wholeness – and the other’s wholeness
are real. The wholeness of each of us
on the planet no matter what we have
done to others, or what has been done
to us – that’s real.

I find that when I’m caught with my
own story I can be more frustrated,
but when I step back to what is real,
I’m less frustrated – able to observe
without getting caught in the drama.

It’s one thing to practice experiencing
my wholeness as part of my spiritual
routine each day, but practicing the
wholeness of others when I’m
disappointed or frustrated with how
I’m being treated or what’s happening
in the relationship is something I’m
still working on.

I’m reminded that the areas of dissonance
that remain become more pronounced
the more I step into complete resonance.
And I wonder: Where is that dissonance
that is bringing me this experience. What
I am I to learn?

Today I don’t have any answers to these
questions. I know that I will again fully
experience my wholeness before I go to
bed tonight as part of my Beneath the
Sand practice. Today that will be enough.
That’s it for this week…From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer
Creator of the Transformational Beneath the Sand Program
http://kenwstone.com/

I have been transformed on so many
different levels – wanting to share with
you – and looking for the words to do so
since arriving home yesterday.

I was transformed by all the wonderful
souls I connected with and remembered
while I was there. Three soul brothers
(there were four men including me) and
a bunch of soul sisters from all around
this wonderful world we all share. It feels
soooo good to spend time in person with
my soul family.

I was deeply impacted by the stories and
experiences of transformation that were
shared during the week. There are
words for some of what I witnessed
and participated in, but they fall short
of the depth of communication I want
to have with you.

Instead I just invite you to take a few
minutes and take a couple of deep
breaths while fully remembering who you
really are, then think about being in
group of people doing the same thing
for four days. I laughed, I cried, I laughed
some more. I hugged. I gazed. I saw,
I was seen. I laughed even more.

I experienced a profound transformation
myself: I really got that I am an author with
an important message. That my time for
writing is as important, perhaps in some
ways more important, as my private or
group session time. And my book started
to flow out of me during writing time on
Wednesday. I can’t wait to share it with
you when it’s done and published.

I witnessed my coach (Christine) setting
an extraordinary example of what it is
to be authentic and vulnerable in person
with a group; holding space and facilitating
in such a profound way. As she has done
many times before, Christine inspired me
this week in new and unexpected ways.

I came away from the experience in a state
of profound gratitude. God is good in ways
that continue to surprise me and take my
breath away. And I remembered how
important it is to take time to retreat.

However you decide to do so, I hope you’ll
take time for yourself before the end of
March with a couple of hours or a couple of
days. There’s a lot going on right now
inside you around your purpose, your
gifts, and being authentic in the world.

Give yourself the gift of time to reflect on
this and whatever else comes up before
the end of the first quarter. It’s going to
be important for how the rest of the year
and your life plays out for you.

That’s it for this week (a few days late)…
From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher, Healer and Author
Creator of the Foundational Beneath the Sand Program

http://kenwstone.com/

Leap into your purpose. Helpful
support: Faith or direct experience
of the Divine. Even then, in my
experience, you may still face
challenges.

If you face challenges, let go of your
ideas of what you think your
purpose is, where you’re headed,
and how you’re going to get there.
Then do it again, and again, and again.

Leaping into your purpose is an
invitation to surrender. It was for me,
and for my clients who have stepped
or are stepping into their purpose.

The opportunity to surrender is more
often than not, an indication you’re on
the right path not on the wrong one.

Leap into the Divine masterpiece that
is waiting to express itself in your life.
Support: see purpose.

Leap into your guidance and follow
it.

Leap into a relationship with another.

Leap into your greatness.

Leap into consciousness.

Leap into your body and experience
the totality of what it means to be
a undistorted Divine conduit.

Leap into remembering who you
really are.

Leap into playing full out, integrating,
being authentic with your words, your
actions and your gifts.

Where will you leap today?

That’s it from this week…From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer
Creator of the Transformational Beneath the Sand Program
http://kenwstone.com/

It’s also been bringing up my wounds
to the surface for healing. This is
one of the themes that I’m seeing in
2012 with people all around the world.

Do you have wounds calling for your
attention right now?

It’s not the most pleasant experience
for me as I become aware of my
shadow stuff – my old wounds that
have surfaced over and over again
in my life.

I feel embarrassed – like I want to
sweep them under the rug and disown
them immediately. “That’s not me!”
I want to yell to anyone who will listen.

I’ve had stories about how these wounds
weren’t actually mine: They belonged
to the other – and arose from unique
circumstances. Not my creation, not
of me. Not needing my attention.

Blame, extricate, and move on – that’s
been my strategy in the past.

Yet here they are once again. No denying
that they’re mine this time. A gift from
the transformation we’re all going through
right now – and playing full out.

I’m able to see the patterns around
these wounds. How they’ve been
coming up for attention since
adolescence. Now to address
and integrate my wounds.

I’m always looking for the lesson. In
the past, I might have told myself my
wounds were there to stop me from
making mistakes again – from playing
full out where before I’ve been hurt.

I might have focused on refining my
approach to be more low key – to
modulate my energy and my light to
prevent waves from being made.
I would have seen the resistance and
my pain as a sign that I was wrong or
fundamentally flawed in some way.

I’m seeing it differently this time.

I’m grateful that I’ve been willing
to play full out in my life so I can
engage new muscles, have new
experiences – and yes, for the
opportunity to heal my wounds.

And even as I write this, I am aware
of all the ways I’m not yet fully playing
full out. I am inspired to a new level
of engagement. In relationships, in
my business, in my spiritual practice,
with my kids…in every area of my life.

I am inspired to embrace my wounds,
to see my beauty there as well – in my
very human experiences, in my stories
and my wounded beliefs. To see the hand
of the Divine inviting me to love my wounds
and then to integrate.

What a wonderful, frustrating, confusing,
and breathtaking experience to be on
the spiritual journey.

It’s an honor to be on the journey with you.

That’s it for this week…From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer
KenWStone.com

To what other people think you should
be or do? To a formula for success in
your life or your career? To what you
think you should be or how you should
act?

One of the biggest lessons I’ve internalized
in my life over the last year has been to
focus on my inner voice and knowing, even
when it defies “conventional wisdom” or
commonly accepted best practices.

It’s been especially challenging for me when
my authentic knowing contradicts what
I think I should or even want to do, much
less what someone else or an “expert” thinks
I should be doing. It’s been a challenge for
me to let my authentic voice and ideas flow
(and to take congruent action) rather than
trying to conform.

An example of this is my weekly emails
to you. At times, I’ve wanted to present
myself as a polished shining example
of perfect consciousness – rather than
sharing my flaws and challenges and
keeping it real. I’ve also been concerned
with modulating my message to make it
more accessible to a wider audience
rather than telling it like I see it.

In the end, my willingness to tell the truth
in my writing and in many other areas
of my life has been about loving myself,
honoring and trusting my truth, my
authentic voice, and my inner guidance.

Where in your life will you stop conforming
and let your truth shine, no matter what
you – or anyone else thinks?

That’s it for this week…From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
Internationally Recognized Teacher and Healer
KenWStone.com

Like many other components of the spiritual
journey, stopping giving away your power is
not a one and done. It’s an ongoing exercise -
something you’ll likely get to practice each
day for the rest of your life (sort of like
surrender – or experiencing the Divine within).

I can think of many times when I give my power
away.

I give my power when I get frustrated with
a situation, an individual or group…about
anything. When I blame someone else
for something that’s going on in my life
that I’m not happy about. When I believe
that someone else knows better how I
should live my life – or what I should do
in some situation – I give my power away.

When I get frustrated with – or blame
someone else or a situation for something
that’s going on in my life that I don’t like
I hand that circumstance (or person) some
of my power. I put them in charge of me
and how I’m feeling. The opposite is true
as well: when I accept complete responsibility
for everything in my life, including what is
true and best for me, I have taken back all
my power.

This has been a real struggle for me at
different points in my life. You mean
EVERYTHING in my life is my responsibility?
Yep! At the end of the day, you control
your response to everything. You know
what’s best for you.

So what’s the consequence of giving
away power? A reduction in the
quality of your life. A lack of confidence.
Miserable or happy you get to choose.

This may sound a bit harsh – especially
if you’re having a hard time right
now with something that’s going
on in your life – or a relationship that
isn’t working.

But it’s the true story. When you get
to a position where you take all your
power back, the relationship, the
situation – will no longer upset you.

You’ll simply choose a different response.

If I make this sound simple or something
that’s easily implemented, let me be
real with you: It’s not. It’s taken me
years to figure this out. Years of
practicing excavating my soul and
playing with surrender. And finding
my own voice, what is true for me.

Since my big surrender event at the
end of June last year I’ve become
LESS tolerant – which has helped me
take my power back big time. Less
tolerant of instances where I wasn’t
loving myself. Less tolerant of situations
and relationships that weren’t in
alignment.

My lack of tolerance has made my words
and actions much more to the point –
much more in alignment with my truth.

And I get to learn this lesson each day
over again.

We’re all in the same soup together.
That’s it for this week…From My
Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
KenWStone.com

So many people have been consumed
with the Law of Attraction over the
last number of years. I remember
watching the movie “The Secret” in late
2006 and thinking – NOW I’ve got my
“how to” for making some serious money
which will clearly make me a happy man.
Inside, I was pretty unhappy at the time.

Needless to say, this was before I woke up.
And surprise, surprise, perhaps like you, I
tried to fix my life work utilizing all the
things I learned in that movie, and a bunch
of books later…with no success.

Here’s what I now know about the “how to”
for everything that’s not working in your life
- that you wish was easier, more abundant,
more full of love, etc. (business or personal):

When you come into a state of resonance
with your Divine (in your body – viscerally.
I teach/facilitate Beneath the Sand to
support this process) and you surrender
(completely – no negotiations), the universe
immediately begins to support you
in ways you couldn’t have imagined.

It’s not about holding an intention – mantras
– or visualizations. All of these activities are
at a “lower” frequency that your true, Divine
nature. And while these practices are powerful
when followed with the practice of surrender
(just as we experienced in the 4th session in
the 4 Days of Healing series), implemented
without surrender they limit the Divine as
they arise from the mind. Get out of the
way, and let Divine grace flow in your life.

It works. I went from freaking out about how to
buy groceries and pay rent 9 months ago,
to having more money in the bank today
than I’ve had in years.

What changed?

Surrender. June 30th 2011 to be precise.
And what did I surrender on that day?
In a word: Everything. My big lesson
in this life has been (and is) self love. My
pain and suffering all derived from my
lack of understanding and experiencing
self love.

At some point in the weeks leading up to
June 30th last year, I realized money is love.
Then I realized I don’t know what self
love is. The answer: Surrender.

Is it all about the money? Heck no – but
it sure is nice to receive support as I share
my gifts with the world. (Big thanks to my
clients for inviting me to be with you on
your path, and hiring me.)

How many people feel called to a higher
purpose in their lives only to end up confused
by the lack of financial support for following
their guidance and purpose? It can end up
feeling like bad guidance, or that you mis-
understood your purpose, can’t it?

There is another answer.

That’s it for this week…From My Heart.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
KenWStone.com

Wherever you are in the world I want to suggest a
follow-up step to your gratitude practice that will
open doors you can’t begin to imagine at this moment:

Surrender.

When you surrender your challenges and the areas
of resistance in your life, you make room for God’s
grace. Gratitude, Surrender, and Grace.

If you’re in need of some support on the surrender
front, I have a website with a series of fr-ee videos
on surrender at www.HowDoISurrender.com.

Practice surrender on the heals of gratitude
and watch as Divine Grace floods into your life.

Peace,

Ken Stone
“The Soul Archaeologist”
KenWStone.com

PS – This evening, as I was coming out of session I
noticed a post on Facebook about Jerry Hicks’ death
this past Friday (11/18/11). I invite you to join me in a
“rampage of gratitude” for this luminary and pioneer.

I met Jerry in July of 2007 – when Jerry and Esther were
in Fort Collins for one of their day-long workshops. I
literally chased him through the lobby to get his attention.
My goal: to ask if I could sit behind the wheel of their big
bus (a Prevost H3-45) – to support me in manifesting one.
He looked at me and said: “No … Better be careful because
once you do, you’ll be hooked.” Then he turned and
went back to what he was doing before I cornered him.

In the afternoon session, in channel, Esther told a story about
how their bus was in Estes Park – and that’s why it wasn’t in
Fort Collins. It was worked into one of her stories. I’ve always
thought that was a message for me.

Thanks for not calling security on me when I chased you down, Jerry.
And more importantly, thank you for your curiosity and endless
enthusiasm for asking questions and discovering – with Esther –
and with Abraham – and sharing the results with the rest of us.

I am grateful that you stepped into your power and your light,
and shared it with the world so completely. You showed the
rest of us how to do that dance, and I will always be grateful for
your example. Enjoy the transition, and report in when you get
a chance! And to Esther and the rest of the family, all my love
and support, as you remember, and celebrate, and mourn the
loss of Jerry in the body – from your life. Thank you for sharing him
and your relationship with us.

Read Esther’s email – and more, here:
http://goodvibeblog.com/jerry-hicks-says-goodbye/

What do you think would happen if you
let go completely?

How much more discomfort and suffering
are you willing to endure before you admit
you don’t have the answer, before you’re
willing to Throw Out The Map and
Surrender completely?

From My Heart: You can make the choice
to Surrender at any point and stop your
suffering. When you do, you will be
amazed by what begins to happen
immediately in your life. I can tell you
your life will immediately begin to unfold
naturally and that you will revel in a
masterpiece far beyond your
comprehension at this moment. But
that’s not the reason to surrender.

The reason to surrender is that you don’t
have the answer. God does. And the
only way God can work through you
and in your life is if you give up your
attempts to control (limit) what is
available to you in your life.

I’d love to hear from you. Let me
know what this brings up for you.

I’m grateful we’re connected in this way.

Peace,

Ken

PS – Surrender is the first step to spiritual
abundance – which is the source of all
abundance (material, financial, health, etc.).

PPS – My friend Lorraine Cohen is interviewing
me next Thursday (November 3rd) about this
and the other two steps to spiritual and material
abundance. In addition to our conversation I’ll
be facilitating a process for everyone who
participates. You can sign up participate here (it’s
free).

Ken Stone, The Soul Archaeologist
KenWStone.com